When you are in the process of being elevated towards your destiny, keep in mind that everyone in your “circle” can’t go where God is taking you!
As humans, we get caught up in seeing “potential” in someone and we feel like we are required to drag them to the top. Can I get a “hell nawl?”
Say it with me: HELLLLLLL NAWWWWL.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m not pointing the finger – I’m guilty as charged! I’ve stayed in relationships with men who were vibrating at super low frequencies, and I’ve befriended people who didn’t even deserve to be in my life!
As I evolve mentally, physically, and emotionally, I’ve realized that the relationship I have with myself is the most important relationship in the world! It took a traumatic life experience for me to step back and realize that not all storms come to disturb your life, some come to clear your path.
When you’re a light, you will naturally attract energy vultures. These energy vultures will come in all shapes and sizes, but they will often disguise themselves as friends! Whew chileeee the Devil!
They will secretly hate you because they see you getting the success they think they deserve, from the work they haven’t even done. (Sips tea) They will want your life, your lifestyle, for free – and while it’s okay to lend your BFF a sweater or spot a date for coffee, it’s not okay to have your emotions, intellect, and generous spirit taken advantage of. I REPEAT: NOT. OKAY.
This is the tell-tale sign of a one-sided friendship: you give and give, and they gladly take without ever giving back. Sure, they might say “thank you,” but are they there for you when you call? Do they help you solve problems, or do they create them? Do you feel like they’re truly present when you’re with them – that they truly see your soul – or are they sticking around for something else?These kinds of “friendships” are Britney Spears-level toxic, and the only good news is that they don’t last. They’ll drain you and try to drag you down, and you don’t need that extra gravity on your way up! Truthfully, in the long run, only mutually beneficial relationships will flourish, and those are the ones you want around anyway. Everyone can’t go with you to the next level, and here’s why:
1. They don’t wanna go
There will always be people in the world who are more comfortable living a life unexamined. Some people don’t want to rise through the ranks and won’t be able to fully empathize with your ambition orunderstand the necessary steps to success. That being said, there might be some people who don’t share your aspirations but are still 100% supportive – keep them around!
2. Misery loves company
Everyone experiences failure, and everyone experiences pain. Sometimes, this can knock people down – and, unlike Chumbawamba, they don’t get back up again. These people might resent you for your success and assume that you had it easy and didn’t sacrifice anything to get where you’re going (which we all know isn’t true!).
3. Jealous Jessica Syndrome
Even if their dreams have nothing to do with yours, people will still be jealous of your success. No matter your field, your job, or your dreams, people beyond peers will be envious of your lifestyle or achievements. And you don’t need that in your life.
4. It’s not their destiny
Remember that this is YOUR journey – your path to your destiny. Own it. Believe in it. You’re not responsible for their success. They need to own and believe in their own destiny, too.
Just remember: Not everyone is meant to stay in your life forever. Each person serves a purpose, even if it’s just to teach us that we don’t want that kind of energy around permanently. Learn from these experiences so that you can recognize the true-blue friends when they do show up, and don’t beat yourself up about losing the bad apples. Whether we realize it or not, some people are just SEASONAL.
Feeling lonely or hurt from a falling-out? Try repeating this affirmation to yourself each day, especially when you’re having all the feels: I now attract those for my highest good and prosperity.